Her: How are things down in Statesboro?(Pause)
Me: *puzzled expression* You don't have the time. How have you been?
Her: Girl, you don't have the time! LOL
She begins to tell me about all these new developments in her life. I won't get too specific but these are really cool things. She's really talented and she's made for the industries she trying to get involved with. Her little fingers were working overtime to explain it all.
Her: So, what's going on with you? (yes...she asked again)(Indefinite Pause)
Me: Working and worrying...same old, same old
Her: Worrying?! Worrying about what, Glo?
Me: Our next move, the future, etc...
I would like to say that this woman offered some encouragement or expressed some level of concern at all. Nope. Not a "who cares..." or "what's happening?" or anything...Conversation ended there. She never replied back. What's my point? I can't stand this, is my point. Everyone knows a "bragger" who loses interest in the "conversation" when it actually turns into a...well...conversation. Why do I HATE this so much?
I mean, I don't mind a person being thoroughly excited about new things in their lives. I don't mind a person sharing those new things with me. I DO mind a person pretending to care about what's going on with me for the sole purpose of being able to tell me what's going on with them. Just to reiterate...I'm not saying I don't like to listen to people...I love to listen to people...especially people with good news...just don't bait me. I guess I should give her credit for asking me about my life twice but...no...I don't want to. LOL.
I've heard it said several times that the things you can't stand about people are probably the traits you possess...kinda like, you think HE'S arrogant, then you're probably MORE arrogant. You think she's vain...yeah, well maybe you hate it in her because you're so vain you think all the attention should be on you.
Maybe that's what's happening in this situation. Honestly, I probably am like this. Maybe that's why I've always loved blogging and journaling...way before the word "blog" was even coined. No interruptions. Get all my thoughts out...When I get finished I get to hit "publish post" or put my pen down and walk away...Maybe a part of me is even a bit jealous that she's doing all these exciting things in an industry that I have a degree in. Maybe not. The heart is deceitful.
We all need more grace, right? Just dumping my brain and figuring thing out.